Date nights are like mini-retreats.
I love planning them for my hubby and I. It makes me happy and brings us closer together. When life gets busy, it’s so easy to grow apart. It’s not like you plan to grow apart, it happens slowly, over time — if you aren’t creating intentional moments to come together.
I love it when he plans date night, too. This allows me to see what’s important to him and it gives him a place to express his creativity in the relationship.
Next, I’ll share 3 elements that make the perfect date night so you and your partner can reconnect and have fun.
1. Set the mood.
Do you want your date night to be fun, cozy, sexy, at home, out on the town, elaborate, simple, short, long…
These are all factors to consider and are the basis for what comes next.
Getting clear on the experience you want to have and create makes the rest of the planning go a lot smoother.
So, let’s plan! I’ll map out our next date night here in this post.
To set the mood, I ask this simple question:
- What does our relationship need right now that will create a deeper connection?
At this stage in our relationship, we’re both busy.
My husband just retired after 30 years in the Marine Corps and has started his first ‘job’ as a civilian. He’s learning new ways of relating and connecting to people, new systems and structures and just about everything else that ISN’T a regular part of military life.
He’s focused and engaged all day long.
I just started Vine + Plate along with running my business coaching agency. I’m trying to fit this venture into a well-established routine without losing perspective. My brain is on high speed all day long.
Between the two of us, what we need most right now is to unplug our brain.
The mood for our next date night is going to be unplugged.
2. Next, come up with a list of 2-3 things you both love to do that fit that mood.
Since our date night mood is “Unplugged”, I’m focused on activities that we enjoy together that don’t require much from us.
What we love to do to unplug is to watch movies. Old school, right? But it still works.
Are we going to watch it at home or at the theater?
I work from home. Most of my consulting clients are in other states so my interaction is almost always via Zoom.
I have a home gym and meditation space.
Except for my outings to the grocery store (yay!!! I love the grocery store) and to my weekly Italian class (como si dice?), I’m always at home.
So ‘out’ is my preference.
With a date night comes dinner and for our Unplugged Movie Night. I don’t want to cook and I don’t want him to cook.
We’ll go out to eat. Somewhere close to the theater to make it convenient.
Done, right? Nope!
This is not just another night at the movies. In the last step I’m going to show you how to create little ways to make it super special and fun.